Thanks for Fear, Anxiety, Sadness and Anger!


Thanks to the feeling of Fear! It has helped me not kill myself on the ski slopes! It has helped me put the breaks on a few times and helped me decide to walk or take an easier route down when the slope was icy or too steep. I have heard people call it their “spidey sense” or ‘spider sense’. This generally refers to an ability to sense imminent danger, a kind of ‘sixth sense’.

Thanks to the feeling of Anxiety! It has motivated me to get many hard projects completed on time.

Thanks to the feeling of Sadness! It has helped me let go of old regrets, old beliefs and relationships that no longer served me.

Thanks to the feeling of Anger! It has motivated me to set boundaries when needed. For example, the time I found myself screaming at the top of my lungs in English and running away from a drunken wanna-be Spanish-speaking mugger in Madrid one night after a late Flamenco Dance Concert.

What do Fear, Anxiety, Sadness and Anger have in Common?

            All our emotions and feelings have “Gifts” and help us with necessary “Skills”, if we only listen to them, points out Karla McLaren in her book, “Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of This vital Emotion,” 2020. She identifies four keys regarding emotions. Her key # 4 is that you can “Learn how to channel your emotions skillfully and appropriately…Channeling can help you approach your emotions as important parts of your intelligence, your awareness, your social skills, and your ability to get things done.”

She says “Emotions are at the center of everything you are: every relationship, every dream, every failure, every triumph, every act of violence, and every act of love. Your emotions are not just random sensations or meaningless moods-your emotions are vital to your intelligence, your social skills, and your ability to understand yourself and the world around you.”

How can you listen to and benefit from Fear, Anxiety, Sadness and Anger?

            McLaren suggests that, “Each of your emotions has a special purpose, and each emotion brings you a unique set of gifts, skills, and genius. Your emotions are your guardians, your support system, and your friends, and you can learn how to work with all of them, brilliantly.”

If you would like to use all your feelings intentionally and constructively, I strongly recommend McLaren’s new book, “Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of This vital Emotion,” 2020, as well as her other books, courses and videos.

If you want to learn more about how to get the benefits of working with your emotions and experience the freedom and peace-of-mind your emotions and feelings offer, I suggest developing Emotional Wisdom! This helps you turn towards all of your feelings and emotions and navigate them wisely.

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