Top 3 Books to Develop Emotional Wisdom

Unchain Your Emotions

What to Do with Your Emotions?

Actually, what these 3 books suggest is not doing anything with your emotions. Rather than avoiding them, denying them or forcing them to do what you think they should do, these 3 books instruct us as to how to truly tap into and be present with our feelings and emotions. Each in their own way suggests that we honor all our feelings and emotions by listening to them, paying attentive to them and allowing them to show us our way forward. No need to run away from them or dwell or get lost in them.

These three books could help open the door to your innate emotional knowing. They are thought-provoking and I highly recommend them. I have personally gained exciting insights from each of them!

Unchain Your Feelings and Emotions

Karla McLaren suggests that we “channel” our emotions, such as anxiety, and learn to understand and access each of their messages and gifts. In her book, Embracing Anxiety”, she helps “you understand and access your anxiety’s genius, and learn how to work with your anxiety when it shows up with 9 of its fellow emotions, such as anger, shame, fear, panic, depression, or happiness.”

Tara Bennett-Goleman, in her book “Emotional Alchemy”, suggests that we use Mindfulness to welcome and be curious about all our feelings. This, she says, is a way to find “simple clarity” and experience our feelings in a powerful transformative way she calls “Emotional Alchemy”.

Kristen Ulmer, in her book, “The Art of Fear”, suggests we not attempt to control or conquer our fear, or any other emotion, but rather that we play the “10, 000 Voice Game”, which involves listening to feelings such as fear from a Zen Buddhist perspective.

Where can I find these books?

“Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of This Vital Emotion”, 2020, by Karla McLaren can be found at

“The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won’t Work and What to Do Instead”, 2017, by Kristen Ulmer can be found at

“Emotional Alchemy: How the Mind can Heal the Heart:”, 2001, by Tara Bennett-Goleman can be found at

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